When trials are suddenly brought upon us, many people reach out. For our family it was overwhelming how many people wanted to help. It’s not always easy to accept the help given but it’s even harder to ask. So here are a few tips that really helped our family.
First of all, it’s nice to have a person who is not yourself or your spouse that you can tell people to talk to regarding help. It takes the pressure off when you already have so much going on in your mind.
A meal train is fantastic. But only sign up if you are going to bring dinner. The family ends up counting on it . We received meals in abundance for over a year. Thank you to all those who contributed.
Cards of encouragement. This was by far my favourite. I had so many cards given to me and every time Aaron or my sister in law Marie came to the hospital it felt like Christmas because they always had cards. People were thinking of me, praying for me , encouraging me to not give up. This was amazing. People I didn’t even know .
Visits were nice but not always. When you feel so horrible it’s hard to visit sometimes. Be prepared to sit in quiet . Don’t be offended if the person doesn’t want a visit.
Clean the house, pick up kids from sports or school. Take the kids out to do something normal. They get trapped in the same world going through the same emotions as Mom and Dad . If it’s the child going through cancer, talk to the parents. See what they or their child need.
Most importantly, pray. Through everything without prayer , things would have been a lot harder to get through. Our constant number 1 comfort in life and death is that we are not our own but in body and soul belong in life and death to our faithful saviour Jesus Christ. Such a comfort to me. I hope to you too.
If you ever have questions, just ask!